Now, as we’ve entered into 2014, I’ve decided to wipe my slate clean. A new year means new opportunities to explore, new memories to make, new experience to have and new people to meet. And I intend to make the absolute most of it.
I’m a big believer in not waiting until the New Year to set goals (though, there is nothing wrong with it, I just think we should always be making goals). However, this year, it just so happens that 2014 creeped up on me right when I needed to formulate new targets the most.
Personally, I find goal making to be very healing. When I feel lost or confused about the direction of my life, I seek new goals and aspirations. It helps to shed some light on my purpose (which I often question in times of distress), provide a clear path for my next steps and it also helps to keep me busy – when I might otherwise desire to sit in darkness. Goals are like the fuel to my engine; I need them.
Back in June 2013, I hit a major speed bump in my life. At a time when it felt like things were starting to fall into place, I was blind-sided. Since it’s in my nature to demonstrate strength to those around me, I decided to plaster a smile on my face and show no weakness, but in reality I was hurting…bad…and I simply didn’t know how to handle it.
The rest of the year proved to be a huge rollercoaster of emotions. So much so that I stopped focusing on some of the things that have always given me hope, strength and happiness: writing, blogging and connecting with others about adversity, health and fitness. I couldn’t bear the thought of putting my feelings in words, opening up to people or relating to others…and that’s how I knew I was in rough shape.
In time, the emotional pain subsided and I slowly came back into myself. But, to be honest, I didn’t officially feel “back” until January 1st 2014 at around 2 or 3am. Yes, that recently.
So what did it? Well a few things:
1. Time. I certainly needed time to heal and move forward.
2. A helpful Skype session with my sister discussing my situation and the reality that there isn’t always a right answer. And she also reminded me that she and my family will always support my actions. (Thanks sis!)
3. A frank discussion with an individual involved in what impacted me in June, which ultimately resulted in us creating an “action plan” – which I always need to have in life.
4. Deciding that I needed to spend a little bit more time on myself, so I began formulating some goals.
There is never just one thing that helps us pull out of a rut – no matter how deep or shallow it may be. It is always a combination of things that happen, which help us see that we are going to be ok and we are in control. Personally, I find that for me it’s always about realizing what I do have control over and running with those things.
So with all of that said, I thought I would share with you all what some of my goals will be for 2014. Of coarse, this probably isn’t everything (new things will come up), but it’s a great start:
- Finish my memoir by December 2014 – it’s a bit huge task, but if I focus, I can get it done in 2014. It’s on!
- Write more blogs, more regularly – blogging motivates me, helps me connect with people all over the world and it keeps me writing (practice makes perfect).
- Re-intensify my training regime and tighten up my diet a bit more (without getting obsessed!) – I’ve been learning how to strike a better balance and so far so good.
- More specifically, put more size on my shoulders and back (v-taper for the world!) and lean down a bit more again – let’s do it!
- Formulate better direction for my future career and business venture
- Make more money – yes I said it! And I’m going to make it happen.
- Travel to at least one place I’ve never been to before.
Like I said, these are just a few goals – I could probably go on forever. But it is important to me to make some of them public to help hold me accountable. So, now that I’ve shared mine, I have a proposition for you…
Share with me your goals…and make them public!
Happy 2014 everyone. May it be filled with accomplishments, experiences, love and motivation.